• Thursday Thoughts – The Mess

    I’m so dang chuffed with all your kind words about Thursday Thoughts!

    What if we all learned to embrace "the mess" of life just a little bit more? Join me for this week's Thursday Thoughts column where I ponder this...and more! | StupidEasyPaleo.com

    In case you missed it, last week I announced this new column where I’m going to share some of the stuff going through my brain…musings, things I’m digging, and cool things I find in my daily travels.

    It’s a chance for us to check in with each other and connect. Click here to see last week’s Thursday Thoughts.

    1) I’m thinking about “the mess” big time right now. A couple days ago, I shared the photo above along with a story about me being not-so-enthused to show my kitchen on some upcoming cooking videos. Basically, I was afraid of being judged for not having the perfect food blogger, modern, sleek cooking spot. The response was crazy, and I never expected so many of you to find comfort in that post.

    I’ve been thinking of other areas in life where we don’t want “the mess” to show…relationships, money, parenting and so on. And here’s what I wish…that if we all laid our cards on the table a little more often, and stopped trying to constantly project the image of perfection…

    …we’d realize that we are nowhere near alone in this. Asking for and accepting help, setting boundaries, putting down the things we use to numb out (phones, booze, food, etc) and just for a moment saying, “I need you. Can you help me?” could maybe mean we could all begin to heal a little bit. To be human IS to be messy and complex. I’m taking some steps toward letting my mess come out. It’s not easy, but it’s necessary.

    2) Ohhhhhkay so that was a wee bit heavy. Is there anything quite as satisfying as getting the perfect avocado? I think not.

    3) Just finished Norse Mythology by Neil Gaiman. Every night, I read before going to sleep. It’s part of my bedtime routine. I basically devoured American Gods last year…couldn’t put it down! The TV adaptation was another story…wasn’t able to make it through the series before I lost interest.

    Anywho, looking for some recommendations for new books. I’m normally not a fiction reader, but I think that’s exactly what I need right now. What have you read lately that’s good?

    4) I’m sooooo pumped because our gym is hosting a Pull for Pride event in June! There will be several around the country so if you’re not in the San Diego area, there may be one near you.

    5) The bottoms-up kettlebell press is my new favorite strength movement. So tough! I love sharing strength moves with you…but I really need you to know that it’s imperative for you to scale to your own level.

    I get tons of questions asking how to get started with strength training. My best advice is to find a local gym or trainer who can really teach you the fundamentals of good movement, especially if you want to eventually use free weights. Read more about it here.

    6) The Crown. Finished it. DYING for season three already. A few of my friends said season two was boring….hahaha WHAT?! It was so freakin’ good. If you haven’t watched it yet, go. Do it!

    7) Greyscale for your phone? Yep, I just changed the color setting on my phone to greyscale (grey / white / black) after reading this article. I’ve been pretty open about the fact that I struggle with looking at my phone too much sometimes. It’s easy to justify that it’s for work (roll eyes) but it can be an annoyance to others and a way that I check out (see #1).

    So I’m trying this out to see if it makes a difference. Already, with the lack of vibrant colors, I can tell that I’m not as interested. Give it a shot and let’s compare next week.

    Got any book suggestions or musings for me? Write me back in the comments! I’d love to hear from you!

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    34 thoughts on “Thursday Thoughts – The Mess

    1. Handmaid’s Tale is so good! And have you checked out the Myths and Legends Podcast? Sounds like it’s right up your ally!

        1. I do some side landscaping work in the Spring and Summer. Myths and Legends was my jam when I had a long day of weed pulling!

    2. #1 So much this. You have no idea how refreshing it was to see that it is possible to run a blog with a normal kitchen. I can never keep up with the dishes (or bottles for my six month old) or laundry. It used to bother me until I reminded myself that perfect is overrated. We’re nourished, healthy, and happy in the mess. That’s enough

      I second The Handmaid’s Tale. If you are into reading more Neil Gaiman, Neverwhere is one of my favorites. All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr is probably one of the most beautiful pieces of fiction I’ve ever read (and I say that as an English major). Also, The Passage trilogy by Justin Cronin is hands down my favorite series.

      1. Thank you so much for your thoughts on the mess. It is enough. Beautifully written, Sandi.

        Appreciate the book recommendations so much. Have a fantastic weekend!

    3. I just finished “burial rites” by Hannah Kent and have moved on to “girl waits with gun” by Amy Stewart and really like it so far *both are historical fiction*… still working on the first season of the crown – the writer/creator was on NPR’s fresh air recently – was a good interview and made me also want to see the Helen Mirren movie (“the queen”) he wrote too…

      hearts to you Steph 8)

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      1. Oh wow, he wrote The Queen, too?! Ahhhhhh that makes sense. See…learning something every single day, Elysia. Thanks for those book recos. You’re awesome!

    4. YES I second The Handmaid’s Tale! Margaret Atwood is an amazing writer. Audible also has a free version you can listen to where Claire Danes narrates it, which is prettttty awesome.

      I haven’t made time to read much lately, but I did buy Judgement Detox by Gabrielle Bernstein because I need to detox some Judgy McJudgerton-ness in my life.

      Slowly getting through The Crown still. How is this week almost over???

      1. Okay that settles it…The Handmaid’s Tale is going on the list. Ahhhh Claire Danes. My inner 14 year old is so happy to hear that. Also have heard good things about the GB book.

        Tell me about it…time is FLYING by!

    5. I’m definitely on your wave length with #2. I’ve started reading every night to get my husband and I off the screens. I’m not usually into fiction either but also feeling like it’s the relaxation my brain needs. I just finished the bone clocks by David Mitchell. Flew througg it! First fiction book I’ve finished in years!

      1. It’s important to admire the little things is what I say 😉 Thanks for the recommendation for the book! I feel like getting lost in a story <3

    6. I LOVED Norse Mythology. Want to know the crazy part? I discovered it from your husband’s IG account. Ha! Tell him thanks for the recommendation!

    7. Hi,

      out of my messy kitchen into yours:

      Have you read station eleven by Emily St. John Mandel?
      I loved this book, the plot is amazing, and it will be super interesting to someone who wants to be harder to kill ;-).


    8. Books are so personable, much like wine as everyone has such different tastes. I still love reading Alex Kava, but have a few not so well known books thar I love to read and reread (‘A good life wasted’ about fly-fishing).
      I want to try the greyscale on my phone as I am light sensitive ever since a bout with viral meningitis. Oh, and not only finding the perfect avocado, but neat little slice’s are heaven on a plate!

      1. I love how you describe that, Amy. So true…so many different tastes and tons of variety to quench our thirsts! Oh gosh that sounds tough, especially with screens. I’ve heard there’s a way to decrease the whiteness of the screen without affecting the contrast too much so it’s still easy to read (unlike just dimming the screen in general). Maybe that’ll help?

    9. I tried the grayscale thing and it didn’t seem to help. Maybe I didn’t try it long enough? I do know turning off ALL notifications on my phone (except texts and calls) has made a HUGE difference. As far as books go, I second the recommendation for The Handmaid’s Tale. I also enjoyed All the Ugly and Wonderful Things, The Book Thief, and The Circle.

      1. How long did you try it for, Amanda? I found that for me, it’s killed my desire to endlessly scroll and to jump on unread screen notifications (those damn red circles!!) Yeah any kind of screen notification is terrible.

        Ohhhh okay lots of recos for The Handmaid’s Tale! Thanks for mentioning those other ones as well!

    10. Call this comment Compliments from a Stranger 😂 but there are several things I felt compelled to share with you

      1. I LOVE the Thursday Thoughts posts. I rarely read blog posts anymore with how lengthy IG posts are getting now, but I love this concept!
      2. I also found so much comfort in your messy kitchen post. Sometimes I think I can’t be a “good enough cook” (wtf does that even mean) bc I have tiny kitchen. Thanks for reminding me otherwise, and for reminding me not to compare myself with others.
      3. I really like seeing more of your vunerability coming thru, it makes me feel like I know you in real life, which in turn makes me want to read more of your content.
      4. BOOKS: my favorite non-fiction I read last year was Trevor Noah’s Born A Crime, but I listened to it on Audible. And honestly, you have to listen, it’s not a book you should read. He narrates it, and his tone and impressions are gold. Nonfiction: Lexicon by Wendell Barry. It’s older, but it made it to my Top 5 Fave Books. Words as weapons, literally. Woah.

      1. You’re so sweet for taking time out of your day to check in, Heather. It was funny…I realized I was really sharing a lot on social but not here, on my blog, my home on the internet. I realized it was time to change that.

        Glad the messy kitchen resonated with you. It’s interesting what we (collectively) use as excuses to hold us back.

        Thank you so much for those book recommendations…I will definitely check them out. One of my favorite books is the Encyclopedia of Words and Phrases so I think I’d dig Lexicon.

        Big hugs!

    11. Just switched my phone over to “greyscale” yesterday. It’s already helping! Thanks for the tip. I just finished “Beneath a Scarlet Sky” by Mark Sullivan. Based on a true story, and VERY good.

    12. I got lost in Diana Gabaldon’s Outlander series. It’s older now, and is the TV series’ origination. I love historical fiction. Toss in a little sci-fi and a strong, brilliant woman and I’m hooked. Eight books so far. She’s working on the next, ‘Go Tell the Bees I am Gone’. Can’t wait to get my hands on it. It was one of those that I’ll stay up til two in the morning, unable to put it down.
      I’ve got ‘A Handmaid’s Tale’ loaded. Guess I’d better get to reading it while I wait!

      1. I’ve heard so many good things about the show! Fun fact…my husband met Sam Heughan a couple times when he lived in Glasgow through a mutual friend. Small world, right?

    13. The Nightingale by Kristin Hannah is amazing!! About two sisters from France during WWII, they lead very different lives but show how strong women were on the homefront of occupied territories and with more active roles in the war. Loved it!! I heard it was being made into a movie, but there is so much that happens in the book, I feel like the movie will never be able to touch it.

      Lighter reading in the young adult teen romance genre would be The Sea of Tranquility, the main character is a girl who has chosen not to speak after nearly being murdered and finding her way into a new normal. Much more interesting than you’d expect for this genre I think.

    14. Grey scale is the bomb…thank you for the article link. I’m sharing it with my teenaged and adult children as we speak. And I love that people are sending fiction recommendations out–all I have been reading lately are cookbooks and introspective non-fiction–so I am very happy to ride on those coattails. Thursdays are now much improved!

      1. Hey Angie! Let me know what happens with the grey scale…curious to hear everyone’s experiences. Yesssss…omg I’m the same with the introspective non-fiction!! Thanks for stopping by and hanging out <3

    15. In your previous Thursday thoughts post you mentioned The Crown and I had been looking for a new show to watch…oh my gosh! It’s amazing! I’m almost done with season two now and it’s definitely NOT boring haha! Thanks for the recommendation!

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